Mark hates holidays. He honestly doesn't like any of them, he tolerates his birthday, but I don't think he'd mind if we really didn't celebrate it. It is not Easter, Christmas, Valentines day, Fourth of July he minds. He minds that people think on these things one day a year and then the rest of the year drop the subject. He hates the commercialism of the days. Spending money we really don't have multiple times a year.
Instead, he wants to make it a life long habit to live out these days each and everyday. I agree with him, I would rather he show me love year round, than give me flowers and chocolates and call it good. If he did that, those chocolates and flowers would be worth nothing. I would actually probably resent them. I would need to work closely with my Jesus on that one! The same goes for me, Mark would rather I love on him by having clean clothes in his drawers, delicious food on the table, making sex not only enjoyable for him but an adventure. Do I enjoy sex or tolerate it because it's my "duty". I was molested as a child and sex is something I struggle with, but something I also want to conjure! With prayer and Mark's patience it is slowly getting better.
Mark wants us a family to celebrate Easter each and everyday. He wants us to rejoice that we are no longer slaves to sin and hell, but we are free in Christ. He wants us to write on our walls that our house WILL serve the Lord! The fourth of July saddens Mark, because America is looking and sounding alot like the Romans did. The Romans were a powerful nation at one point, but they were also a very corrupt and sinful nation. They tolerated every nasty and evil thing. America is also heading that way. As we drift further from the word of God, as we drift further away from obeying God, we will suffer the consequences. It may be our physical heath deterating, it may be our nation gets invaded and we live under the rule of another nation (Americans don't think we are above such a thing, we are not!). Mark comes from a military family. A family who has fought for our nation and would have gladly died.
I am making a Valentines Day supper for our family. We will have lemon pepper salmon, garlic onion mashed potatos, aspagras, and cheddar biscuits, with a red velvet cake with raspberry chocolate cream cheese. The love we are celebrating is Jesus love. All week we have been memorizing love verses. To really love requires a Jesus kind of love, it is a committed, quick to forgive love. Mark and I love each other because we are commanded to, there are days when Mark and I genuinely love each other. We can gaze into each others eyes and enjoy the moment. But there are other more frequent moments when we have to remember the truth of scripture, throw our pride off, put on our humility and forgive each other and love each other because God has commanded us to love each other. To me that is real love. Mushy, gushy, oozy love is wonderful, but it's not lasting, it's a feeling, a wonderful feeling, but one that is dangerous to get hooked on. Be thankful for the mushy, gushy, ozzy love but cling to the everlasting love, the everlasting joy that is Christ and will never ever go away!
So I leave you with this....What is love?
"Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
--Paul in The Holy Bible
I Corinthians 13:4